Choose the Right Person

There are some decisions in life that you can recover from fairly quickly. You choose the wrong restaurant. You order something terrible, pay the bill and promise yourself you will never go back. You choose the wrong dress. You take it back. You choose the wrong job. You resign, update your CV and start again. […]

Men Do Cry

The World Suicide Prevention Day was on 10 September, and the World Health Organisation campaigned under the theme: “changing the narrative on suicide” and with the call to action “start the conversation”. So here I am, starting the conversation. A few years ago, I wrote a piece titled “It’s Okay for Men to Cry.” At […]

A Case Against Alcohol

I don’t drink alcohol. I haven’t had a drink since January 2019. Sometimes when I say that, people look at me as though I have just announced that I have given up joy, friendship and weekends. “Never?” “Not even wine?” “So you don’t drink at all?” No. And the truth is, I don’t particularly miss […]

lilies

I bought lilies recently, let me rephrase, my man bought me flowers as always and they included lilies. For almost a week, they sat in a vase looking exactly the same. Closed. Quiet. And as always, almost disappointing, if I am being honest. Every day I would look at them and think, so… are we going […]

To be A Woman

This blog is a little late. South Africa commemorated National Women’s Day on 9 August, and I had every intention of writing something for the occasion. But I was already in KZN, spending the day as one of the bridesmaids umembeso nomemulo of one of my long-term friends, someone I have known through different seasons of […]

Grief and Gratitude

The other day I caught myself doing something strange. – I was smiling. Not the polite smile you wear because the world expects it. Not the one you put on for photographs or phone calls. A real one. The kind that sneaks up on you before you realise you’re happy. And almost as quickly as […]

What Law Has Taught Me About Grace

No one tells you that being an attorney is really about becoming a student of people. When I first entered the legal profession, I expected to spend my days just arguing the law. I only expected courtrooms, legal research, and making persuasive submissions. I didn’t expect to spend so much of my time listening to […]

Love Sick

I’ve been thinking about love lately. Not because I have finally figured it out. If anything, the older I get, the more I realise how little I know about it. I know what it feels like to long for it. I know what it feels like to be afraid of it. I know what it […]

The Life You Want Will Cost You

We often talk about our dreams as if they exist on a vision board, waiting for the right opportunity, the right timing or the right people to make them happen. But what we don’t talk about enough is the cost. Every meaningful life comes with a price. The career you admire cost someone countless late […]

I Didn’t Realise How Much I Had Changed

It’s strange how life can change without asking for permission. One day you’re praying for opportunities, wondering whether things will ever fall into place. The next, you’re living in the very season you once begged God for, and you’re too busy keeping up with life to notice how far you’ve come. I haven’t written in […]